Trust is something we create for ourselves. Today Emily and Alison Moses, Director of Business IT at HomeServe, talk about why we have to trust our reports if we want them to grow (and noticing when you’re not), bootstrapping trust for a co-worker you don’t know very well, and two ways to generate any feeling anytime you want.
Choosing our thoughts intentionally lets us choose how we experience our life. It lets us create any results we want. And it lets us choose how we’re going to feel. For most of us, empathy is our first experience with intentionally trying on new thoughts. Today Emily and guest Garrett Ledbetter talk about empathy, trying on new thoughts, and noticing your assumptions.
Everything we want, we want because of how we think it will make us feel. But the truth is that our own thoughts are the only things that can create our emotions. Join me as I talk with Jill Wetzler, Head of Engineering at Pilot, about what makes validation so important to leaders and the difference between valid and right.
We can’t prevent feelings we don’t like from happening. But if we’re willing to allow them in our bodies for a minute or two without trying to shove them away, we can teach our brain a new playbook for what to do next. Join me and Lulu as we talk about how to use the common emotion of frustration to learn this process.
Whether we’re wearing the hat of manager, leader or engineer, our jobs are about making decisions all day long. Patricia Perozo and I talk about why confidence is critical for making effective decisions, and why we resist it anyway. Then I’ll teach you the Self-Coaching Model – the framework backing much of my coaching work.
When our brain notices we’re experiencing an emotion it engages one of four responses: React, Resist, Avoid, or Allow.
Learn how to identify which you’re using, how to intentionally Allow an emotion, why sitting with anxiety is important for healthy relationships, and tips for reducing your body’s fight or flight reaction.
To lead well we need to be vulnerable with our teams – and with ourselves. Today Jessica Mink of Auth0 and I talk about why knowing what you’re feeling is critical for your emotional health, the right way to be vulnerable with your team, and why being vulnerable with yourself is required to hit big goals.
Discomfort is a critical emotion if you want to lead well, help your team grow, or grow yourself. In this episode Don Neufeld, CTO of ClassPass, and I talk about why discomfort is so important, why constructive feedback doesn’t have to be uncomfortable, and the right kinds of coaching questions to ask your team.
Ready to finally solve the process or cultural problems causing big slowdowns in your organization? This week I’m joined by Leadership Coach Jean Hsu to talk about why we don’t make time for these projects, even if we find them really exciting. Then I’m teaching you the three-part formula for finally getting them done.
Welcome to Emotional Leadership, the podcast from Executive Coach and Software Engineering Leader Emily Leathers.
Emotions are the high-achieving leader’s secret weapon to getting more done, creating thriving teams, drastically lowering stress, and loving work. But we aren’t taught anything about them in school or traditional management training. It’s time to fix that.
Join Emily and her guests each week to dive into how they experience a critical emotion at work, how to work with it instead of against it, and learn Emily’s core tools for emotional health at work and at home.
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